For most of my adult life, I have searched for things to help me to heal from loss. My father died when I was only four years old at a time that I was unable to process or understand much of what had happened. My next major loss occurred when I was in my second year of medical school and my grandmother, with whom I was very close, died before I was finished needing her. Both instances were so hard to understand, at least the why part. It seemed so unfair. I needed both of these people in my life and what was I to do without them. Coping with the loss of my grandmother was done as an adult, however, frequently I felt like the same child that was fatherless at a very young age.
Both of these experiences made such a powerful impact on my life that I have made a career out of supporting people who are grieving their losses. Something that I learned unexpectedly was that supporting others in their grief, helped me, as well. This has become a very special part of my medical practice. Loss is so universal, yet, one does not think much about it until it is very personal.
So, I never thought about having this great benefit of healing from supporting others. People are so appreciative, yet, I really have received such connection with someone who is suffering and missing their loved one, just like me when my grandmother died and my dad died. It is my blessing to be of service.
Thank you for allowing me to sit beside you and share in your suffering.
I think about the people in my life that I love right now and how special they are to me. I want to appreciate them now and let them know how much they mean to me.